I can never forgive him………….
For some reason our society today often views forgiveness with the utmost disdain. The person who forgives is regarded as spineless and weak.
However, ask yourself why keep something that is so harmful to your well- being in your heart? Why hold on to a memory that is obviously self- destructive? What do you have to gain?
Forgiveness does not mean that you become friends with the person. It simply denotes cleaning your heart and keeping your thoughts towards that person neutral.
Unforgiveness, hatred and grudges all belong in the same destructive category. These bad feelings gnaw at your insides and slowly destroy your life. The object of your hatred most times isn’t in the least bit affected by this. Instead you are literally hurting your own self.
Unlike what society teaches us forgiveness is actually being the “bigger” person. Forgiveness demands you being mature enough to look past this person’s transgressions against you. Forgiveness is born out of the desire to live. Live? Yes to live.
Forgiveness is a decision you take to keep your body and mind healthy, mentally and physically. Contrary to popular belief moving past someone’s negative attitude toward you, builds your character. It builds your strength and intelligence.
” For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:14
Enough said……………………the decision lies with you !